Showing posts with label positive. Show all posts
Showing posts with label positive. Show all posts

Become a prisoner of hope...again...




















The categories of optimism and pessimism don't exist.Optimism is a secular construct -- a calculation of probability. Better to be instead, a prisoner of hope. Hope wrestles with despair without generating optimism. Hope gives people the courage to "bear witness" and "see what the end is going to be." There is no calculation with hope. When we embrace it, we commit ourselves, without any guarantees, to a better tomorrow. -Cornell West

This is the paraphrased quote expressed by Cornell West as reported in the 40th anniversary edition of Rolling Stone Magazine. That was last December but given the extraordinary and wonderful things that have happened this year -- from the presidential election to the tumbeling of high gas prices, becoming a prisoner of hope remains a powerful idea worth repeating.

Embrace hope.

Most of the time we weigh the odds in a situation and then make a decision to be optimistic. Do I have enough gas? Will I make it home? Can I close this deal? Will I beat this deadline? Can I get this job, promotion, house etc...

We calculate all the variables we can think of in our mind. We check the gauges, run through the probable scenarios and settle on the one we want to happen based on the facts we think we know. And generally, this approach works.

We choose to be optimistic because we can calculate a positive outcome.

But what happens when the variables are too fluid? What happens when we can't wrap our minds around the possible positive outcomes? Am I safe? Will the world be a better place? What will happen tomorrow?

We abandon optimism and embrace pessimism.

Ultimately, weighing the odds as a path to optimism fails us. Optimism's doppelganger pessimism is always there, lurking in the back of our mind. Whatever positive outcome we can think of based on the odds, the inverse is there too, waiting to creep out of the shadows of doubt in any optimistic calculation.

We are prisoners of the formula we use to navigate everyday life.

If we must be prisoners, then let it be inside the bright walls of hope. There is no calculation with hope, no variables to be weighed, no possible negatives to weigh against.

We hope because we believe against all odds.

We hope because we have faith despite the circumstance.

We hope because we can.

Embracing hope is contrary in an age of instant information. The facts, the variables are all their to serve us in our calculations. From news to statistics, from text messaging and cell phones to portable GPS navigation systems -- we have endless sources of facts for our formulas. All of it waiting at the touch of a button.

In the end, information itself is not enough. There's too much, the scenarios are too many, the possibilities for a negative outcome too high.

When faced with the darkest times, we often become a prisoner of hope by default and we achieve what we thought was impossible.

Stop doing the math. Erase the formula.

Believe against all odds.

Have faith despite the circumstance.

Hope because you can.

Yes is the new no...

'I wasn't open to stuff before. Now I am and things are changing for me."
- Jim Carrey, Yes Man, opening 12/19/08


Think of all the times we said "no" instead of "yes" to good things that had come our way.


What would life be like if we had only said yes?

How many times could "yes dear, I'll make time for us to take that trip/go to dinner/catch a movie" have improved the marriage or relationship?


What kind of adventure did we miss out on because we couldn't bring ourselves to say, "yes, I am open to relocating for the promotion?"

How many times did we chip away at our own heart by not being able to simply say, "yes, in fact I do have some change to spare."

For many people "no" has become a way of life and they don't even realize it.

No, I don't have time.

No, I can't move.

No, I don't have any change.

No, no, no, no, no. We say it endlessly. Flipping that "no" into a "yes" is the premise behind Jim Carrey's new movie Yes man. In it, Carrey plays a guy who turns his life completely around for the better by saying "yes" to everything for six months.

Some people are probably already saying no, they would never be interested in seeing this kind of movie because it's too unrealistic.

They would be wrong.

The movie is based on the real life escapades of British journalist and comedian Danny Wallace.

"I, Danny Wallace, being of sound mind and body, do hereby write this manifesto for my life. I swear I will be more open to opportunity. I swear I will live my life taking every available chance. I swear I will say yes to every favour, request, suggestion and invitation," he writes on http://www.dannywallace.com/Books.aspx


The results are captured in his book which shares the same title as the movie. Wallace goes from being a grumpy, depressed working stiff to a guy who lives the adventure life has to offer. He wins $45k, rockets up the corporate ladder, travels the world, finds love, etc... All by learning how to say yes instead of no. And he doesn't tell anybody he is doing it either.


We could do the same in our own lives. Pick a month, a week, a day, heck even an hour where saying yes replaces the automatic no to opportunity in life.


Make yes the new no in your personal vocabulary. And get ready to experience life in ways that you may have only dreamed of before now.


Enjoy!




p.s. get pumped up with saying yes here http://yesisthenewno.warnerbros.com/

Give the people what they want.























People across the U.S. are clamoring for it.

Mike O'Neill is asking for it in Alaska's Bristol Bay Times...

"For once, business and community leaders ought to step up to the podium with no paper or notes or power point presentations and speak from the heart."

Suzanne Garment hopes for it in New York's Forbes Magazine...

"Maybe we would finally escape the tyranny of Beltway talk and hear America speak from the heart."

David Norville asks for it in Alabama...

"What ever happened to being able to speak your heart?"

We want it. Speak from the heart.

We need it. Speak from the heart.

We desire it. Speak from the heart.

Imagine the possibilities if everyone just began to speak from the heart.

No more words of hurt, fear or pain.

No more scheming or manipulating.

No more lying for convenience's sake.


If we want honesty from our leaders, more compassion in this world and positive change; then we have to speak from our heart in every conversation we have with people.

That's every conversation.

Not just on special occasions. Not just when tensions are high. Not just when we need a breakthrough moment with a loved one, co-worker or acquaintance.

We have to speak from the heart every single time.

So let's do it.

Let's take time to give each other the love, care and concern we deserve. Let's find the words we need to break any walls of fear and mistrust in our own lives -- friend, family member, co-worker or stranger.

Let's give everyone one the things they really want from a conversation -- love, compassion, understanding.

We can change the world for the better.

And it starts with the next conversation. No matter how big or how small. No matter if it's with one or one hundred. Remember to give people what they want.


Speak from the heart.

Remember who you are...

Remember who you are. You are more than
just the circumstances that you deal with everyday.
- Kelly Carroll, Canyon News 9/28/08

Remember you are more than just the circumstances you deal with everyday.

How true. How true.

Leave it to the Californians to remind us how our individual humanity extends far beyond the confines of our job, title, status or daily circumstances. In this case, it's Kelly Carroll writing for L.A.'s Canyon News.

We are more than the circumstances we deal with everyday...

Take for example Terence Gerchberg and Sara Leshner. The New York couple chucked their daily circumstances of working real estate and Wall Street respectively to compete in this season's Amazing Race contest on CBS. Each had to look beyond their current circumstance to do something new and amazing with their lives.

Will they win the $1 million grand prize for zipping the fastest across five continents and 30,000 or so miles? We'll find out in a couple of months. In the meantime, it's enough to know that at some point, they realized they were indeed much more than their daily circumstances would allow and broke through to a new reality.

We can do the same because...

We are more than the circumstances we deal with everyday...

This week, the story of one amazing person hits the screens in Flash of Genius. The story chronicles the life of Robert Kearns and his legal battle with automotive giant Ford Motor Co. over rights to his invention -- the intermittent windshield wiper.

Kearns realized early on that he was more than his circumstance the minute he got popped in the eye with a champagne cork on his wedding night. In one flash of fizz, Kearns began to reach beyond his circumstance to create something new. And it led to an amazing life of his own that continues to impact millions of people around the world today.

We can do the same because...

We are more than the circumstances we deal with everyday...

Where ever you are sitting right now,

whatever you are doing at this hour,

however you may be feeling at this moment,

take heart.

As Kelly Carroll tells us, "there is always another dream calling you to what will happen next."

Find the dream that works for you because...

You are more than the circumstances you are dealing with today.

Remember that.


Find the courage...

















So what I am advocating here is something that requires courage - the courage to have a change of heart.

- Pema Chodron, author, Practicing Peace in Times of War

Find the courage to have a change of heart.

How true.

This thought comes from author Pema Chodron in her book Practicing Peace in Times of War. And it could not come at a better time of the year. Today marks the end of the 26th annual UN International Day of Peace.

Yesterday...

In Afghanistan, tens of thousands of people stopped shooting at each other in the mountains and fields.

In the Bahamas people were encouraged to light a candle at noon for peace.

In Woodstock, New York people erected a "peace pole" and fellowshipped in a moment of silence for peace.

In Kula Lumpur, Malaysia the government declared the day a national holiday.

And in Ypsilanti, Michigan hundreds of people from all creeds, colors and nationalities came together to celebrate peace.

In each instance, from Malaysia to Michigan, people found the courage to have a change of heart.

We can do the same in our own lives.

Today, we can find the courage to treat everyone we meet with kindness.

Today, we can find the courage to soften an angry moment.

Today, we can we can find the courage to forgive a friend, a relative, a co-worker or a stranger.

Today, we can find the courage to have a change of heart.

We are the world.

Peace starts with us.

Today.


Dare at summer's end...

"I pray that the life of this spring and summer may lie fair in my memory. May I dare as I have never done! May I persevere as I have never done!"
- Henry David Thoreau, May 15, 1852

Pray that this summer lies fair in memory. Dare as one has never dared. Persevere as one has never persevered.

This inspiring thought originated more than 100 years ago by Henry David Thoreau. He wrote it at the start of his summer as a way to urge himself to break the bonds of his daily routine.

Summer's end approaches. Will it lie fair in memory?

May I dare as never done...

Twenty people from South Salem, Oregon dared to build houses in El Salvador this summer. Along with laying foundations as part of Habitat for Humanity, the group cared for the sick and helped the poor.

May I persevere as never before...

This summer, devoted father Walter Marino jumped into the ocean to save his autistic son from a strong current. The pair were swept out to sea off the coast of Daytona, Florida but managed to stay afloat for 14 hours until rescued.

May I dare as never done...

Teenager Corey Warburton jumped from a bridge to save an elderly woman from drowning in Coffs Habor, Australia. On the shore, fellow teen Michael Bethune, rushes into the river to successfully help the pair back to land. Bethune has cystic fibrosis.

From Oregon to Australia, people are daring as never before and persevering through incredible circumstances.

For them, summer will lie in fair memory.

It can be the same for us as well.

There is still time to dare as never before...

Right now there is a friend, a relative, a stranger waiting for us to dare. Right now, there is an adventure to be discovered, a hand to be held, a care to be given.

Answer the call.

Reach out.

Make a positive difference in someone's life today.

Summer's end approaches.

Make it a good memory for years to come.

Listen to summer...

Summer's music is the message. Listen closely...


June 21st is the first day of summer.

Night will give way to day.

The sun will take its slowest walk across the sky.

Birds will follow in lazy circles.

Flowers will unfold and stretch.

Children will play.

Each player in summer's choir will be assembled for our joy.

And the music of life's symphony will be one long riff.

Get ready to listen to summer's song.

We still have time...

to unplug from technology,

to let go of fear,

to pause anger's daily grind.

We still have time...

to practise a smile,

to reach out to someone we love,

to relax on the lawn,

to lay on the beach,

and enjoy the June-July-August concert series.

Summer's music is the message.

Listen closely...


Create some space...


















We've all got to find a way to create some space in our lives to forgive ourselves. When we do, we find a way to love ourselves and others more profoundly.

The idea may sound quaint. The idea may sound foreign. But finding a way to create some space is important.

Give yourself some breathing room. When we don't, we pile on the negative one after the other.

Consider the case of Oregon City resident Becky Griggs. Horribly over weight at 350 pounds, Griggs reportedly could never find a way to celebrate her successes in her battle with weight. The tiny steps in the right direction were always over shadowed by the tiny steps in the wrong direction. She would focus on when she said yes to eating, instead of celebrating those times when she said no to food.

One day she gave herself some room to make mistakes. That gave her determination to get fit and lose weight room to grow in her life. She learned to celebrate even the tiny steps in the right direction. Now she is 200 pounds lighter, healthier, happier and serving as an inspiration to others. She is a finalist in the Prevention magazine/ABC News Now contest about health.

That is nothing short of amazing.

So is this interesting fact.

Google the phrase "forgive yourself" and the search engine will produce 264,000 hits. Each one is a different story, strategy, idea on how to forgive yourself and move forward. Each one also gives several reasons why it is important to learn how to forgive yourself.

That's more than a quarter million strategies for moving forward based on probably a million reasons why doing so is good for you -- all at your fingertips.

Oprah's website gives five quick steps to forgiving yourself. First, reopen your heart and mind. Second, choose to love yourself again. Third, understand the fear that is driving your feelings. Fourth, give yourself permission to let go of pain and love yourself. Finally, create a new, positive relationship with yourself. In other words think of and refer to yourself as kind, nice, loving, forgiving etc...

You now have one strategy down. There are 263,999 others still available to be explored. Find the one that is right for you.

Create some space...

and let love grow...



p.s. to find out more about Becky click here... http://www.westlinntidings.com/news/story.php?story_id=121139481805135700 ; Oprah's website can be found here... http://www.oprah.com/spiritself/lybl/well/ss_lybl_well_forgive01_g.jhtml

Start the ripple...
















When you empower others, you are more empowered. Remember that the more power you give, the more power you get.
- Kurek Ashley, author, How would love respond?

When you empower others, you are more empowered.

How true.

Consider the situation of Harry Bernstein in Brick, NJ. At 97 years-old, Bernstein has achieved success as a celebrated author on the New York Times best seller list. This was his first literary award and it was born out of the tragic loss of his wife, six or so years ago.

Bernstein was married for decades. He reportedly described his loss as the most painful memory of his life. He was 91 years-old at the time.

Yet, what he did next was extraordinary.

Bernstein says he reached back into his long life as far as he could go and started writing. He wrote about his childhood. He wrote about life in England during WWI. He wrote and he wrote and he wrote.

He took his grief and after reaching inward, he reached out with a book. And by doing so, he started a ripple in the waters of time that impacts the lives of people today. Read about it here...

http://bricktimes.micromediapubs.com/news/2008/0417/Front_Page/001.html

Now consider the case of young Alicia McWilliams in Detroit.

After losing her mother at the age of nine, McWilliams over came incredible odds
in an urban environment and is now valedictorian of her high school class. She
is poised to continue her education and do wonderful things with her life. Her
story is captured by a journalist and is displayed as an example for others to
follow here...
http://www.freep.com/apps/pbcs.dll/article?AID=2008805040557

Although she has a ways to go and everything for college is not paid for, she is already on her way to doing wonderful things.

McWilliams' has started a ripple by persevering and sharing her story. She is empowering others to keep pushing, keep moving forward and keep trying.

And she is only 18.

So, if a 97 year-old and an 18 year-old can look beyond their circumstances to empower others, what could we do?

Turn away from disappointment. Let go of the argument. Reach outward and find a way to help someone move forward.

Start a ripple of your own today.





Learn to dream big...



I have failed a lot of times. But when I fail, I try to come back and get a better way of doing the same thing. - Norman Vaughn, explorer, (1905-2005)


Come back and find a better way of doing the same thing.


Thank you Norman Vaughn.

Vaughn knows about succeeding over failure. For 65 years, three attempts and little money, Vaughn tried reach one of the mountains Admiral Byrd named after him after their successful expedition to Antarctica in 1930. Each time he failed.


Still, with more dawns behind him and than in front, Vaughn dared to dream big. He never gave up on his desire to do the impossible -- one, more time. That kept him going. Vaughn lived to be the oldest surviving member of Admiral Byrd's expedition (he was 21 years-old at the time he traveled with the admiral). He did not complete his quest until 1995. He was 86 years-old when he finally succeeded.

Vaughn died five years later. Still the ability to dream big lives on today.

Take the case of Adrian Broca. Blind since the age of 18, Broca is the fastest blind marathon runner in the United States. And he is training hard to compete in this year's Boston Marathon.

Amazing.

When he first started running after losing his sight, Broca would get lost, often fall and suffer from the accompanying cuts and bruises.

Still he kept running...

And dreaming big.

Now here's the question.

If an 86 year-old man with little money and failing health can climb a mountain in Antarctica and a blind guy can run the Boston Marathon, what can we do in our own lives?

The answer: anything.

Start dreaming big today.

Go native...


Life is not measured by the number of breaths we take, but by the number of moments that take our breath away.
-anonymous


Marc Anthony did it in Egypt. Barak Obama is doing it in Pennsylvania. Chris Rock will do it when he opens in Europe. We do it everyday.


It's called "going native." Generally the term refers to someone who adopts a culture other than their own in a way that makes them like one of the locals.


The difference between Anthony, Obama, Rock and most people is that the former go native on an huge scale. Marc Anthony took up with Cleopatra in a way that made history for the Roman Empire. Barak Obama strapped on bowling shoes to connect with Pennsylvanians. Chris Rock, famous for his inability to shake his New Yorker penchant for walking around a city despite his mega star fame, will undoubtly wander around his hotel's neighborhood when he plays his first European tour later this year.


These classic figures from past and present go native in an attempt to connect with people. They adopt a viewpoint of the local population in an effort to see the world through other people's eyes. This in turn allows them to better achieve a goal they have in mind for themselves. Anthony wanted to rule an empire. Obama wants to capture the vote. Rock wants to reach a new international audience.


Their goals are lofty. They impact millions. They dream big -- very big.


They dare. They reach. They cut a path of their own in history.


Meanwhile, most people go native just to get along in their daily lives. They adopt the culture of their work environment -- even if it is contrary to their own value system. They work to blend in with their new neighborhood. They dress for the social event and change their attitude accordingly.


Most people go native to be anonymous.


Better to remember that life is not measured by the number of breaths we take, but by the number of moments that take our breath away.


Go native, in a way that expands your world.


Start with something small. Experience a new culture by eating dinner at a place where you don't know the language or the menu.


Strike up a conversation with a person from a different culture. Make that person a new friend.


Then kick up going native a notch. Decide to travel someplace cool. The Na Pali Coast State Park (picture above) in Hawaii could do.


Drop anonymity. Do something different.


Start going native in a way that changes the course of history for you.


And by doing so, begin to measure life by the number of moments that take your breath away instead of by the number of breaths you take.

Make your destiny...

What it means to be a person is your creation. The meaning of human existence, our provenance and destiny, the essence and definition of us all -- these are not found or discovered; they are invented. - Peter Koestenbaum, co-author/philosopher, Freedom And Accountability at Work

Providence and destiny are not found. They are created.

What a powerful and liberating thought.

Powerful in the sense that if destiny is not something bestowed, people can take back from the fog of modern life, their ability to choose the things they will do with the rest of their life.

Liberating in the sense that free will and choice gives people the power to determine how each day, each moment will be for them no matter what the current circumstance.

Providence is our creation.

Destiny is what we make it.

What we become from this moment forward is up to each of us.

History is littered with examples from Martin Luther King to Gandhi. Even today the examples of people who fashion their lives much different from their beginnings, their middles and up to their ends surround us. They range from mega stars such as Madonna and Will Smith to titans in business such as Bill Gates to political powerhouses such as Barak Obama and Hillary Clinton.

Providence is our creation. Destiny is what we make it.

We can probably think of examples of people in our personal lives -- mother, father, teacher, neighbor, co-worker -- who kept picking up and moving forward despite the challenges they faced.

Providence is our creation. Destiny is what we make it.

We may even remember a time when the world was new and the "reality" of life's little circumstances had not chipped away at our dreams.

Providence is our creation. Destiny is what we make it.

And even though, many feel as if the die for themselves has already been cast, they find ways to teach their children that they can be anything they want to be in life.

Providence is our creation. Destiny is what we make it.

But the die has not been cast. There is still time.

Whatever the current circumstance may be, it will not be forever. Time moves on. The only constant is change.

Providence is our creation. Destiny is what we make it.

What it means to be a person is our creation.

What will you do with the time you have left?

Build on your success.

Let go of any failure.

And blaze a new trail for yourself.

There is still time.

Shape providence and destiny to your own liking.

St. Patrick, Halle Berry and your new beginning...
























Today is your day.

The signs are everywhere as m
illions of people around the world break out the cheer for St. Patrick's Day. Halle Berry has her first child at age 41. Winter gives way to spring.

This is a time for new beginnings, another chance, a breakthrough moment.

Whether it's Detroit, Dublin or Danang, millions of people are breaking out the smiles to celebrate St. Patrick's Day. The day is actually a religious holiday (sans drinking) and Patrick was actually a real person.

St. Patrick lived in the fourth century. He was kidnapped as a teenager from his parents home and held for six years. Patrick turned to Christianity in captivity. He escaped, walked 200 miles and eventually returned to Ireland as a missionary.

His is a fascinating story. Of course legend is larger than life and St. Patrick did not rid the land of snakes (Ireland has never had snakes). He did however achieve vast fame for spreading the gospel by incorporating many of the pagan traditions into his worship. March 17th, the anniversary of his death, marks the day that celebrates his life as a missionary.

Thus, Christians can argue St. Patrick's Day is a day of forgiveness and new beginnings. Black or white, Irish or Indian, the mission of spreading the gospel urging people to love, start new and forgive was limited to no particular race. Hence, the celebration of the missionary St. Patrick as a lucky day is a lucky day for all.

This is a time for new beginnings, another chance, a breakthrough moment.

Halle Berry has her new beginning with the birth of her baby girl March 16. The road has had its challenges. Pregnant at 41, divorced and diabetic, the Oscar winning Halle Berry overcame those challenges to achieve her latest dream -- to be a mother.

This is a time for new beginnings, another chance, a breakthrough moment.

The first day of spring is March 20. At 1:48 p.m. eastern standard time on March 20th, the sun will be directly over the equator. And for a moment, day and night will be about equal all over the world. Afterward, because the earth tilts on an axis of 23.4 degrees, the days will get longer north of the equator and shorter south of the equator. Without the tilt, the sun would shine the same way all the time and there would be no changing of the seasons.

But that's not the case. The sun will shine longer. The season will change.

This is a time for new beginnings, another chance, a breakthrough moment.

This is your time.

This is your new beginning.

This is your chance for a breakthrough moment.

The signs are all around.

Today is your day.

Claim it!

Answer the call...


"We have tomorrow right before us like a flame"
-Langston Hughes (1902-1967)


"We have tomorrow right before us like a flame."

Thank you Langston Hughes.

His words are a powerful reminder of the promise another day brings.

How will you take advantage of that promise?

What is calling you, pulling you, urging you to tomorrow?

The examples of people who answer the question everyday are endless.

Barringtion Irving became the youngest person to fly solo around the world. He did it last summer at the tender age of 23 years-old.

That same year, Katsusuke Yanagisawa became the oldest person to scale Mt. Everest. He was 71 years-old.

Nola Ochs graduated from college at 95 years-old -- 77 years after she took her first class in 1930.

Carl Wittee received his PH D when he was 12 years-old.

Young, old or in between, there are still moments to be had and records to be set. We still have things to do.

What is calling you?

It has to be more than the next job, promotion or assignment.

What is calling you?

Is it a trip to Paris or a walk through Central Park in NYC?

What is calling you?

Maybe it's walking part of the Grand Canyon, taking a nap on the beach in the South Pacific, or biking the Appalachian Trail?

What is calling you?

Take a moment.

Listen to yourself.

Answer the call.

After all...

we do have tomorrow before us like a flame.

Start moving towards it today.

GNP or GNH?


Every time the wind blows it takes our prayers straight to heaven. No machines required. -- Rike, village leader, Bhutan as quoted in National Geographic March edition





Poet, singer, song writer Will.i.am asks the question best.

"When was the last time that "words" were not empowering?"

Never. Words are always empowering.

Consider the following. The leaders of the tiny country of Bhutan (pop. 600,000 pictured above) have embraced a new way to chart their country's growth. The measure is called the Gross National Happiness. The idea is to chuck the Gross National Product for something more meaningful to people. Reporter Brook Larmer lays it all out in stunning detail in the March edition of National Geographic Magazine.

In short, Bhutan's national policies are aimed at modernizing without materialism, trading without greed and embracing democracy without a GNP or a GDP. They measure their success and growth not in terms of dollars and cents, but in how people feel.

The entire country chooses to be happy. It's part of their national policy. The words that guide everyone in Bhutan are empowering -- Gross National Happiness.

Imagine a modern world where the national policy, the focus of the entire country is on achieving prosperity as something other than individual wealth? And then they build their national policy around ways to stimulate the GNH?

Words are empowering.

The Bhutanese choose to be happy and they define it, measure it, and race towards it with the Gross National Happiness index.

How about you? How do you measure prosperity -- GNP or GNH?

Decide and find out how empowering the following words can be for you...

I am happy.

I feel good.

Absolutely wonderful. How are you today?



p.s. Click here for Will.i.am's latest soul stirring, word empowering project http://www.dipdive.com/dip-politics/wato/




Build a grand estate...


Metropolitan Detroit is ranked as "America's Most Miserable City" according to Forbes.com.

Oh Detroit is not alone. Forbes' misery index includes Oakland, Ca.; Flint, MI; New York; Philadelphia; Los Angeles and others.

Forbes calculated the misery of an area by measuring the crime rate, unemployment, taxes, commute times etc...

Even so, there is beauty in every place. The photo above was taken in the most miserable metropolitan area.

And what Forbes does not measure is beauty.

Or love.

Or friendships.

And those can be found in abundance -- even in America's most miserable cities.

Emily Dickinson says, "my friends are my estate."

How true.

My friends are my estate.

They defy time, geographical boundaries and economic status.


My friends are my estate.


They provide joy in times of sorrow, laughter in the midst of pain, comfort at any age.


My friends are my estate.


They are the most precious of all valuables. They are the warmth in our house, the rock of our Gibraltar, the solid ground upon which we stand.


My friends are my estate.


They add color to the painting of our life. They give meaning to our existence. They are markers of where we are and what we do with our time.


My friends are my estate.


Even in America's most miserable cities, friendships can create sprawling personal estates filled with love, joy and happiness.

How big is your estate?

Is it a lonely house on a hill or a sprawling plot bustling with life and laughter?

Is it a 60 watt bulb casting its glow over a barren room or a chandelier illuminating warm conversation?

Is it a boarded up window or an open door with a warm fireplace?

You decide.

Even in America's most miserable cities, there are sprawling estates open to all.

How big is yours?

Pick up the phone. Share a dinner. Laugh over lunch.

Connect or reconnect with a friend today.

And start building your grand estate.








Get in vogue...

"Look for any way you can to be kind to the person you share
your life with. Don't focus on failings, but good intentions."
- Fred Luskin, Stanford U Prof. as quoted in the San Jose Mercury News
2/17/08

New York Republican Congressman Tom Reynolds forgives GOP rival John McCain. He urges others who may have ran afoul of McCain's temper to do the same.

Olympic sprinter Francis Obikwelu forgives Dwain Chambers after Chambers cheats to win. Obikwelu asks race officials in the UK to do the same.

Jamacian mother June Campbell forgives a local police detective after he confesses to framing her son for a murder he did not committ. She urges others to do the same with people in their lives.

Forgiveness is in vogue.

Now Stanford University Professor Fred Luskin wants people to learn how to forgive. So much so, that he has established the Stanford Forgiveness Project, written several books on how to forgive and has let go of his own anger.

Luskin knows about forgiveness. As a graduate student, he found himself on the wrong end of being dumped by his best friend. Angry and confused, Luskin found a way to channel his disappointment into a movement to help others.

The results of his efforts have helped people from San Francisco to victims of violence in Northern Ireland lead happier, healthier lives.

Dr. Luskin's efforts reveal one truth -- forgiving is a learned skill. He offers several ways for people to learn how to do it. Chief among his stratiges are 9 Steps to forgiveness which can be found here: http://www.learningtoforgive.com/steps.htm

So let go of anger.

Reject revenge.

And embrace a better future.

Now is the time to forgive.

Get in vogue, forgive someone today.



The only true adventure is waiting for you...




"We love because it's the only true adventure." - Nikki Giovanni



Love is the only true adventure.

Thank you Nikki Giovanni. That's a worthwhile thought this Valentine's Day season.

The roots of Valentine's Day are certainly deep in adventure. History has it that Valentine did actually exist. He was a priest during Roman times who married young couples in defiance of a ceaser. Emperor Claudius II decreed that young men could not get married so that they could concentrate on fighting instead of missing their wives back home.

Of course St. Valentine would have none of that and married them anyway in secret ceremonies.

When Valentine was discovered, he was sentenced to death. During his imprisonment, he fell in love with his jailer's daughter. On his execution date, Feb. 14, he signed his letter proclaiming his love, from her Valentine and hence, a tradition was born. That was around 270 A.D.

That's one legendary version of the holiday anyway. It's hard to figure out considering that their are least three Catholic saints with the Valentine name.

Another thought is that the Christian church co-opted a pagen Roman festival involving women's names being drawn from a lottery by eligible bacholers. The whole affair makes for some interesting reading. A pope declared Feb. 14 Valentine's Day circa 498 A.D.

As you can see, Valentine's Day has been around long before Hallmark, Hollywood and commercialization got ahold of it.

So go ahead. Express and proclaim your heart to another without fear that the entire holiday is just another made up marketing scheme on Feb. 14. It's not. People have been celebrating Valentine's Day for centuries.

Live the adventure that love has to offer.

Tell someone special you love them.

And make everyday an opportunity to be a valentine.



p.s.
you can get all the historical details of Valentine's Day here http://www.history.com/minisite.do?content_type=Minisite_Generic&content_type_id=882&display_order=1&mini_id=1084

Super Bowl, Super Tuesday, Super YOU...














Why push? Why change? Why grow? Why dream?
Questions you don't have to ask yourself when you never say it can't be done -- when you never say never.
-GMC Yukon commercial aired during Super Bowl
2/3/08



Why dream? This is a question you don't have to ask yourself when you never say never.

How true.

On first blush, this inspiring thought would seem odd coming from a 60 second commercial. But this is not just any commercial. This is a commercial aired during the most recent super bowl. And the super bowl is the super game of American sports. Consequently, the advertising during the game is the best the market has to offer.

So an SUV ad touting new environmentally friendly techonolgy advances that also encourages people to dream big makes sense.

Never say never.

This is a thought worth repeating and holding onto in life.

Never say never.

The New York Giants football team believe it and beat the unbeatable New England Patriots
17-14.

Never say never.

Democrat and Republican presidential hopefuls are hanging onto it as they go into Super Tuesday.

Never say never.

One of the presidential candidates will carry it all the way to the White House in November.

Never say never.

You can believe it too.

Never say never.

Whatever your dream is today, believe you can make that dream real.

Never say never.

If you want the kind of love that lasts forever, start giving it.

If you want a legacy that lasts for generations, start creating it.

If you want new experiences that seem bigger than life, start having them.

Whatever you really want is yours for the taking.

No matter what is happening right this very minute, you can have your dream.


So dream big.

Believe it can be done.

And take a step forward today.

Remember...


Never say never.

p.s. you can see all of the last Super Bowl's commercials here at http://video.msn.com/video.aspx/?mkt=en-us&brand=foxsports&vid=c74f74b7-b969-400e-bfc7-82f497a238e8&playlist=&editor=&from=foxsports&rf=http://msn.foxsports.com/nfl/story/7736914/Position-by-position-Super-Bowl-breakdown-&wa=wsignin1.0

Your book of lists...















Lake Michigan is under consideration to be one of the new seven wonders of the world.

- http://www.new7wonders.com/



People love to make lists.

Some make lists in their day to day work life...

Journalists keep a running list stories. Lawyers keep track of client cases to work on in 15 minute intervals. Dentists list patients appointments. Teachers keep a list grades.

Some make lists to change the world...

Bernard Weber is a Swiss born Canadian filmmaker and entrepreneur. He has started a global poll to list the seven new natural wonders of the world. This effort follows a global poll choosing the seven newest man made wonders. That project ended this past summer. Now Weber is asking people to vote via the Internet on seven new natural wonders at http://www.new7wonders.com/classic/en/index/.

So far, the list includes places such as Mt. Everest, Mt. Sinai, the Cliffs of Moher and Lake Michigan.

Lake Michigan?

Yes, Lake Michigan is included as a natural wonder of the world contender.


Other people make lists to change their lives...

There is a new movie out called The Bucket List. Actors Morgan Freeman and Jack Nicholson portray men living out their list of things to do before they die. They include the everyman fantasies of skydiving, racing cars and visiting far flung places. And their lists include a more sublime range of feelings to experience.

So whether the list is of the daily grind, the sights to see or the way to live, we all have lists.


What's on your list?

Is it the grind of day to day living or the grandeur of life? Is it pork chops and butter or people to love and experiences to savor?

Is it all about getting busy living or getting busy dying?

Think about it for a moment.


Create a list of personal wonders to see. Jot down a couple of once in a lifetime, must have experiences. Decide where to go. Choose what to do and when to do it.

There is still time...

to make a list...

to live a new dream...

to make life's lists a book of wonders.

So go ahead, make a list today.